The last few weeks I have had a certain conversation with quite a few friends. These conversations were not all at once or planned. I realized today that their concerns and views are the same of many, including me.
We find ourselves feeling like we are not where WE think we should be in life or “by now”. I realize that this idea that we are keeping is like a weed in our lovely manicured laws. Who says what any of us should be doing or “at” in life at 21, 26, 32, 37, 40 and 45?
One of the friends I had this conversation with is 26 just like me. She graduated from college in 2004. She stated to me how she felt she should be further in to her career and on her way to being engaged by now. She said she felt unsuccessful because she didn’t have what she thought she would at this age. She feels she made some wrong choices in her career and previous relationships.
After to talking to her I thought about all the self-expectations we have for ourselves. From degrees to our careers to our family to our love life to our financial situations. I wondered where do we get these expectations from. And how much are we working to fulfill of our expectations. Are we realistic about how long it takes to accomplish them. Are we taking the right and positive path to accomplish them.
I seems that a lot of our expectations come from our environment. Go to school graduate, go to college, graduate, get a job, get married, buy a house and have babies. Though this is not the path or desire of all. Sometimes I think we all feel the pressure to fulfill one or all of these. We all have to learn and push to fulfill what we want and not what outside forces tell us we want.
I can not help but bring up my belief that thing happen for a reason. I believe that God sends us on a path HE sees fit for us. Many times this is not our planned path but it is where and what we are meant to be and do. We can not control every aspect of our lives. Sometimes we get so focused on accomplishing these many goals and dreams we forget or don’t even try to enjoy the ride. Before you know it you’ve looked up and life has passed you by.
Also we have to be thankful for where we currently are. I have to say that I personally had a struggle with this the last year or so. I was so unhappy with where I was career wise I did not see how much success I actually had. I am blessed, but was too busy trying to accomplish A, B and C to truly thank God for what I already had. I did the normal thank you prayer, but I did not fully realize how blessed I was.
I lost myself trying to obtain success. I read somewhere that prosperity and success test of character. We have to remember what we came from. How we got where we are and remember that. I’m sure there are plenty of very successful people who lost their soul as they gained their success.
Even though we may not be where we want we are blessed. Other people came from where we came from (and worse than that) and have worked harder than we have and don’t have as much as we do. Some have worked just as hard and have gotten more than we have. That’s how life is, we should not second guess ourselves too much. It takes time and hard work to get where we are meant to be. Notice I said meant to be and not want to be!
We find ourselves feeling like we are not where WE think we should be in life or “by now”. I realize that this idea that we are keeping is like a weed in our lovely manicured laws. Who says what any of us should be doing or “at” in life at 21, 26, 32, 37, 40 and 45?
One of the friends I had this conversation with is 26 just like me. She graduated from college in 2004. She stated to me how she felt she should be further in to her career and on her way to being engaged by now. She said she felt unsuccessful because she didn’t have what she thought she would at this age. She feels she made some wrong choices in her career and previous relationships.
After to talking to her I thought about all the self-expectations we have for ourselves. From degrees to our careers to our family to our love life to our financial situations. I wondered where do we get these expectations from. And how much are we working to fulfill of our expectations. Are we realistic about how long it takes to accomplish them. Are we taking the right and positive path to accomplish them.
I seems that a lot of our expectations come from our environment. Go to school graduate, go to college, graduate, get a job, get married, buy a house and have babies. Though this is not the path or desire of all. Sometimes I think we all feel the pressure to fulfill one or all of these. We all have to learn and push to fulfill what we want and not what outside forces tell us we want.
I can not help but bring up my belief that thing happen for a reason. I believe that God sends us on a path HE sees fit for us. Many times this is not our planned path but it is where and what we are meant to be and do. We can not control every aspect of our lives. Sometimes we get so focused on accomplishing these many goals and dreams we forget or don’t even try to enjoy the ride. Before you know it you’ve looked up and life has passed you by.
Also we have to be thankful for where we currently are. I have to say that I personally had a struggle with this the last year or so. I was so unhappy with where I was career wise I did not see how much success I actually had. I am blessed, but was too busy trying to accomplish A, B and C to truly thank God for what I already had. I did the normal thank you prayer, but I did not fully realize how blessed I was.
I lost myself trying to obtain success. I read somewhere that prosperity and success test of character. We have to remember what we came from. How we got where we are and remember that. I’m sure there are plenty of very successful people who lost their soul as they gained their success.
Even though we may not be where we want we are blessed. Other people came from where we came from (and worse than that) and have worked harder than we have and don’t have as much as we do. Some have worked just as hard and have gotten more than we have. That’s how life is, we should not second guess ourselves too much. It takes time and hard work to get where we are meant to be. Notice I said meant to be and not want to be!
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