When are you and your significant other’s(SO) differences and issues to much?
They say opposites attract, but how much is too much. He eats what you’re allergic to. She snores and it keeps you up at night. He isn’t there for you enough. She complains to much. He puts you down. She doesn’t spend money wisely. He is not fulfilling you sexually. She doesn’t discuss major decisions with you. He’s not ready for the commitment you want.
No relationship is perfect, but there is a line between right and not so right. For each person it’s different. I feel there are a few levels to what breaks the deal. There are deal breakers. Things that can happen once or twice and you throw up the deuces and peace out. Like cheating, abuse and stealing.
Then there are the in-betweens. The things that you let slide, depending on how much you like/love the person. Like the way they talk, how they handle certain things, snoring, other traits and habits. These things may be annoying, but you can live with them.
Then there are the things you are on the fence about. Like their use of money, how they treat their family, their views on certain issues, how they may or may not compromise with you and commitment issues. These things are hard to know if they should end the relationship. Some of these things may change over time after some work. Though it takes a lot for a person to change.
Over the last month I have had several friends dealing with this decision. Each one made a choice that fits them. Walking away from it all, working on their relationship harder, seeking counseling and postponing their wedding.
Sometimes it is not about your SO or the relationship at all. It’s about you. At times you have to follow your gut. Sometimes you have to take chances. Sometimes you have to be stand on your faith in God and that alone.
This decision is not easy and I have been faced with it before. Have you or are you dealing with this decision?
They say opposites attract, but how much is too much. He eats what you’re allergic to. She snores and it keeps you up at night. He isn’t there for you enough. She complains to much. He puts you down. She doesn’t spend money wisely. He is not fulfilling you sexually. She doesn’t discuss major decisions with you. He’s not ready for the commitment you want.
No relationship is perfect, but there is a line between right and not so right. For each person it’s different. I feel there are a few levels to what breaks the deal. There are deal breakers. Things that can happen once or twice and you throw up the deuces and peace out. Like cheating, abuse and stealing.
Then there are the in-betweens. The things that you let slide, depending on how much you like/love the person. Like the way they talk, how they handle certain things, snoring, other traits and habits. These things may be annoying, but you can live with them.
Then there are the things you are on the fence about. Like their use of money, how they treat their family, their views on certain issues, how they may or may not compromise with you and commitment issues. These things are hard to know if they should end the relationship. Some of these things may change over time after some work. Though it takes a lot for a person to change.
Over the last month I have had several friends dealing with this decision. Each one made a choice that fits them. Walking away from it all, working on their relationship harder, seeking counseling and postponing their wedding.
Sometimes it is not about your SO or the relationship at all. It’s about you. At times you have to follow your gut. Sometimes you have to take chances. Sometimes you have to be stand on your faith in God and that alone.
This decision is not easy and I have been faced with it before. Have you or are you dealing with this decision?
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