The other day I had a conversation with a co-worker about marriage. She stated she does not ever see herself married or having kids. I asked why and she said it was too much commitment. I told her that marriage is like being boyfriend and girlfriend times ten. She said she didn’t want to be that committed to someone.
I asked her did she have a boyfriend. She said no, but that she has in the past. I asked did she take it seriously when they were together, like was she committed to their relationship. She said yes, but not too much since they were only boyfriend and girlfriend. I told her I didn’t understand how you can expect more if you don’t take the current level seriously.
I discussed this with my girls and was given few more comments on the subject. All agreed the main difference is the level of commitment. Yes, you will be more committed to your spouse than your bf/gf. In marriage, you take vows that are between the couple and God. Bf/gf title is temporary to most. Cheating in marriage is adultery, while it’s cheating in bf/gf.
We all said that we took being a gf seriously. Even though we may have messed up by cheating or other stuff while being a girlfriend we took it seriously and learned to do better.
I still wonder how many think marriage is too much commitment. That it’s too much work. These people worry me. If you can’t put a certain level of work and commitment into being boyfriend and girlfriend, then how do you expect to make it to the next level? These people scare me. Since they have no respect for marriage and the level of commitment and work, they would be the first ones to cheat with married people. I am not saying it would be their entire fault because they didn’t take the vows, but I think it would not be much thought to it.
I asked her did she have a boyfriend. She said no, but that she has in the past. I asked did she take it seriously when they were together, like was she committed to their relationship. She said yes, but not too much since they were only boyfriend and girlfriend. I told her I didn’t understand how you can expect more if you don’t take the current level seriously.
I discussed this with my girls and was given few more comments on the subject. All agreed the main difference is the level of commitment. Yes, you will be more committed to your spouse than your bf/gf. In marriage, you take vows that are between the couple and God. Bf/gf title is temporary to most. Cheating in marriage is adultery, while it’s cheating in bf/gf.
We all said that we took being a gf seriously. Even though we may have messed up by cheating or other stuff while being a girlfriend we took it seriously and learned to do better.
I still wonder how many think marriage is too much commitment. That it’s too much work. These people worry me. If you can’t put a certain level of work and commitment into being boyfriend and girlfriend, then how do you expect to make it to the next level? These people scare me. Since they have no respect for marriage and the level of commitment and work, they would be the first ones to cheat with married people. I am not saying it would be their entire fault because they didn’t take the vows, but I think it would not be much thought to it.
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