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Choosing to be happy

I have come to realize that being unhappy is a choice. I know you’re like “What the hell?” We make the choice to stay at the jobs, in relationships, to deal with the people or go to the places that make us unhappy. Also we let certain things get to us that we could choose to ignore or accept that we can not control.

Working a job you’re unhappy doing may not always be a choice 100%. Yes, someone does have to bring home the bacon but can you bring it home doing something else? Have you looked or pursued another job? (Yes, I know the economy is a hot mess) Have you considered what makes you happy and how you can profit from that? Our hobbies can be our careers!

Being with someone who makes you unhappy can be a downer on your overview of many things. I know nothing is perfect, but finding the line between what you can deal with and what you can’t is important. Many of us get comfortable in our situations. We feel we have companionship, when we really don’t. We have a roommate! Your significant other begins to change or you change and you two are no longer are compatible.

Having friends that are not really friends can make anyone unhappy. They’re more like associates, but some how got in the friend column. Everyone has different definitions and expectations of friends. I personally feel there are levels to friends. Some are very close and important to you and others are close but not as important, so on and so on.

Overall, I feel being unhappy is a choice. I am not saying remove or change these elements and you’ll be happy forever. I am just trying to open your eyes to other options and views. You can not control what someone else says or does. You can control how you deal with them and their actions. Being passed over for a promotion, being lied to, or being given a ultimatum. We can look at these actions and make decisions. We control out destiny, which means we control our everyday lives.

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