SITC #9 Figuring It Out

The hardest part of dating is getting use to the person you’re seeing. We all have habits and traits that others dislike. On top of learning regular stuff about them, you have to learn how to deal with the traits you do not like very much. Trying to figure out if there are more good traits than annoying. Or if you should chop it up as a lost and move on.

Even deciding to move on can be confusing. What things determine when to do so. Right now I am going out and having fun. I would like to date someone that has the traits I would like in next significant other. Just in case it becomes a relationship. At the same time I am not sure if I am finished looking to see what else is out there. I do not want to make the steps toward a relationship when I am not sure if I want to be in one.

Right now I feel like I am currently making those steps with the man I am seeing. I don’t think it’s obvious steps, but we’re a few months into seeing each other. There is daily communication by instant messenger, email, text and phone. We see each other a few times a week. As much as I enjoy spending time with him, a piece of me is not sure if this is “where I want to be.” At the same time when I reduce our daily communication, I miss it.

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The Wedding Industry

Today while chatting with my girls we began discussing the wedding industry. The hoopla and money associate with a wedding. During this conversation I stated that how happy I am I didn’t stick with the original budget we had for our wedding. How I would be mad if I had spent that much now that I am married. Some times I feel like I am anti-weddings. It might be from being on The Knot (TK) since this past July. Or seeing couples, especially the women, put so much work, time and focus into their wedding and its over in a snap! Some spend a year or more planning their wedding. Researching, looking, buying and stressing over every detail of it and the day is over before you know it. I am NOT saying don’t do what YOU want, but do NOT get caught up in the hype! I mean seriously, would you put this much time in planning a party? A get together? A retirement party? Nope... so why your wedding? It's technically a party. It is a celebration of your union. Definition of wedding (1) a marriage...

Inappropriate Questions

I am the queen of asking questions. I ask because I rather ask than assume, but I try not to ask inappropriate questions. If only others would do so too! Here are some I get and/or hear. “What grade are you in?” Um stupid motherf’er I am GROWN! Notice the diamonds on my left hand and my wedding band. The nice business casual clothes! This is a question I get atleast once a month from some random stupid person that don’t know me and they usually get a rude response. I mean if you are observant enough to look at me and think I’m that young you need to really be observant! And I’m a sistah, yes with a H! Yall know black don’t crack! “When are you due?” This one always makes me laugh when someone ask a woman who has a muffin top stomach and is NOT pregnant! I know it’s funny to me since I don’t get that question, but still how ignorant is that! “When are you having kids?” Um lets see, never! Why are you all in our sex life? I mean really! I am going to start saying, “We ...

Tornado in ATL

Friday night a tornado hit downtown Atlanta. I still can not believe it. It is amazing to see the damage it caused. I was born and raised in this city! This is the stuff I watch on the news not a few blocks from my house! I was moments from being caught in it. Thank God I was running behind for once in my life. I am normally very on time but wasn’t Friday night. I was and left a few minutes behind. There is major damage less than a mile from my house. I love living downtown, but the other day I wasn’t so in love with the idea! Thankfully no one I know was injured or had major damage to their homes. One of my favorite bars, the Harlem Bar is closed. It is on Edgewood. The tornado did some serious damage to that area. I am thankful that few were injured and no one was killed. It’s amazing that now one was since it hit in a very populated area. Thank God it was 9:30pm and not rush hour!

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