As I previously stated I am doing a Single In the City blog on BAB.
I will copy them over here after they have been posted there a few days.
I will title them SITC then number them, depending on how long the title I might include them in the title on here. If it's long I'll just put it in the post! So here is the first one! Enjoy!
Single, Taken, Engaged, Married, Single Again
I was married on October 7th, 2007 in an intimate ceremony at The Stanley House, a beautiful Southern home in metro Atlanta.
Our wedding day was three months after we became engaged. I put a lot of work into planning our special day, but now that I look back I realize it was not that serious. Not because we are no longer together. Because of the stress and pressure I added on myself.
I am sure you are wondering why we are not together. Well, neither of us is perfect. R, the ex-husband, felt that some of the agreements we made before getting married were no longer acceptable. He is in the military, and that alone added stress to our marriage. Then he started changing his mind and making crazy demands. And then there’s just life in general, and we all know how crazy that can be.
Did we try counseling? Nope, he refused.
Did we pray? Yes.
Did we cry? Yes.
Did we try? Yes.
Did it work? No.
We separated in April.
In two years I went from single… to girlfriend… to wife… to single, again.
WOW I’m dizzy from typing all that.
I could be bitter. I could change my view on love and marriage. I could cut his behind! I could do a lot of things, but I’ve decided to move on. Call the whole situation a Lesson Learned (great track on Alicia Keys’ new album). I know that God put me in that situation for a reason and I will not shoulda coulda woulda this or anything else in my life.
Even though I am no longer a bride or newlywed I am proud to be on Brown and Bridal. I have learned how many women have been in my place and it has given me strength. I know that being a part of this community will help me continue to heal. I hope that my presence will help other brides as well.
I will copy them over here after they have been posted there a few days.
I will title them SITC then number them, depending on how long the title I might include them in the title on here. If it's long I'll just put it in the post! So here is the first one! Enjoy!
Single, Taken, Engaged, Married, Single Again
I was married on October 7th, 2007 in an intimate ceremony at The Stanley House, a beautiful Southern home in metro Atlanta.
Our wedding day was three months after we became engaged. I put a lot of work into planning our special day, but now that I look back I realize it was not that serious. Not because we are no longer together. Because of the stress and pressure I added on myself.
I am sure you are wondering why we are not together. Well, neither of us is perfect. R, the ex-husband, felt that some of the agreements we made before getting married were no longer acceptable. He is in the military, and that alone added stress to our marriage. Then he started changing his mind and making crazy demands. And then there’s just life in general, and we all know how crazy that can be.
Did we try counseling? Nope, he refused.
Did we pray? Yes.
Did we cry? Yes.
Did we try? Yes.
Did it work? No.
We separated in April.
In two years I went from single… to girlfriend… to wife… to single, again.
WOW I’m dizzy from typing all that.
I could be bitter. I could change my view on love and marriage. I could cut his behind! I could do a lot of things, but I’ve decided to move on. Call the whole situation a Lesson Learned (great track on Alicia Keys’ new album). I know that God put me in that situation for a reason and I will not shoulda coulda woulda this or anything else in my life.
Even though I am no longer a bride or newlywed I am proud to be on Brown and Bridal. I have learned how many women have been in my place and it has given me strength. I know that being a part of this community will help me continue to heal. I hope that my presence will help other brides as well.
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