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Why Did I Get Married

Oct 15, 2007

As most of the you know Tyler Perry's "Why Did I Get Married" made it's way to the movie theaters this weekend. I went and saw it today with my sister and niece. I truely enjoyed it. GO SEE IT!!

I've seen the play and have to admit I wasn't sure what to expect from the movie. I was pleasantly suprised. As always I've talked about this subject / movie with some friends, male and female, and all seem to have enjoyed it. Even relate and see themselves and their current or past relationships in it.

In the past few weeks, while doing the final preparations for our wedding and since the wedding, I've asked myself the movie title's question. I was also asked by people "How do you know you are ready to get married", "What made Him the One" and my favorite "Why?!?" I've pondered these questions...

Other than the normal: I love him and he loves me. I came up with: He completes me. The patience I have lacked most of my life he has. He is a man that knows how to be so without bringing anyone else down. He isn't perfect. I have had my share of fixer uppers or drama filled relationships and ours was never either of those extremes. We have a well rounded relationship. That has evolved as we ourselves have changed throughout our time knowing each other. How he treats me and my daughter. He has treated me like a Queen from the second I meet him and my daughter like a true princess. I am spoiled and know it but he doesn't nessarily spoil me he treats me like a lady and doesn't think twice about it.

"Why Did I Get Married?" I got married because I know we will accomplish more together than we ever will alone. Because I love being with him and know that we have real unconditional love. I didn't want to live in sin anymore LOL it's true but still it sounds bad out loud. I wanted our relationship to be legal and viewed rightously by God, our family and friends. Most of all because it feels right.

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