Sept 16, 2007 ~ "My eyes are on the prize"
Why when you look at a wedding, it seems so simple? I guess it's like the skyscrapers downtown, many days and many people went into building it, but you only see the end result when you drive past.
As a result of moving my wedding date WAY up, I am in a mad dash for the details of it all! I have gotten many opions on this subject which is what got me thinking about all of this.
I am trying to enjoy this wedding process, but I'm realizing more everyday that it is about me and my love sharing a very important moment in our lives with the ones we love. Do I care about certain traditional elements being involved... HELL NO! Do I feel I have to hand write every address on every envelope of my invitations...Double Hell No! Do I care about the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with standing next to me as we declare our love for each other.... Super Dupper Yes!
I guess I just don't understand the level of extremes involved in a "traditional" wedding! From the engagement announcements, engagement pictures, save the dates, to choosing the "right" invitations, to chapel veils and dyeable shoes! It just seems quite a bit commercialized to me! I understand wanting something lovely and nice for ALL to be at but sometimes I'm not sure how much love is involved compared to the money spent!! I don't want to be Betty Downer but really, does it take $25,000 to start your life with someone you love?
Or are we choosing to hand over check after check and watch our credit cards get slid over and over to have this one "perfect" day? Then spend years paying it off. Even today while getting alterations done on THE dress, I over heard THIS conversation between a bride and her mother. Suprisingly it was the daughter trying to downsize and the mother wanting everything no matter the price! She said that she felt she paid for the quality of their day by the amount she paid! As the daughter tried to explain their budget and the reason she made her choices, I couldn't help but think...
Of all the people that have asked me (mostly women) where my dress was from and how much I paid. Where our invitations are from and what format. What venue we had booked and how many guest. What cut was my engagement ring and how many carats. To even what wedding band I've choosen and why. But rarely and I mean RARELY do I get the question how long have you been with him, what makes you know he's the One, and what are yall goals together! Isn't that the most important thing!!! And before you think the last question is too personal, who says none of the previous ones aren't!
The result of all this has made me even happier with my decision to reduce my wedding guest list and wedding size to focus on the PRIZE. To each is own and I'm not knocking anyone who decides to do it BIG, but it's not for me or my wallet! I have a few friends who said if they could do it over they would not have done it big or atleast not so big themselves. So good luck to you with your planning! I'm on my home stretch... 3 weeks from today... Thank God!!
Why when you look at a wedding, it seems so simple? I guess it's like the skyscrapers downtown, many days and many people went into building it, but you only see the end result when you drive past.
As a result of moving my wedding date WAY up, I am in a mad dash for the details of it all! I have gotten many opions on this subject which is what got me thinking about all of this.
I am trying to enjoy this wedding process, but I'm realizing more everyday that it is about me and my love sharing a very important moment in our lives with the ones we love. Do I care about certain traditional elements being involved... HELL NO! Do I feel I have to hand write every address on every envelope of my invitations...Double Hell No! Do I care about the man I am going to spend the rest of my life with standing next to me as we declare our love for each other.... Super Dupper Yes!
I guess I just don't understand the level of extremes involved in a "traditional" wedding! From the engagement announcements, engagement pictures, save the dates, to choosing the "right" invitations, to chapel veils and dyeable shoes! It just seems quite a bit commercialized to me! I understand wanting something lovely and nice for ALL to be at but sometimes I'm not sure how much love is involved compared to the money spent!! I don't want to be Betty Downer but really, does it take $25,000 to start your life with someone you love?
Or are we choosing to hand over check after check and watch our credit cards get slid over and over to have this one "perfect" day? Then spend years paying it off. Even today while getting alterations done on THE dress, I over heard THIS conversation between a bride and her mother. Suprisingly it was the daughter trying to downsize and the mother wanting everything no matter the price! She said that she felt she paid for the quality of their day by the amount she paid! As the daughter tried to explain their budget and the reason she made her choices, I couldn't help but think...
Of all the people that have asked me (mostly women) where my dress was from and how much I paid. Where our invitations are from and what format. What venue we had booked and how many guest. What cut was my engagement ring and how many carats. To even what wedding band I've choosen and why. But rarely and I mean RARELY do I get the question how long have you been with him, what makes you know he's the One, and what are yall goals together! Isn't that the most important thing!!! And before you think the last question is too personal, who says none of the previous ones aren't!
The result of all this has made me even happier with my decision to reduce my wedding guest list and wedding size to focus on the PRIZE. To each is own and I'm not knocking anyone who decides to do it BIG, but it's not for me or my wallet! I have a few friends who said if they could do it over they would not have done it big or atleast not so big themselves. So good luck to you with your planning! I'm on my home stretch... 3 weeks from today... Thank God!!
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