So.... After having my wedding I have come to realize that what many brides, well I should say couples, think they must have or do for their wedding is not that serious.
I still get on theknot's message boards everyday. Reading the questions, needs and ideas of brides shows me how overboard the wedding industry pushes us. I know it is THE day of our lives, but we all do have to live after that day. I mean really the extra money we put into attire, decor, flowers, invitations, STD (save the dates) and more could be pay off student loans or you car, be a down payment on a house and so much more. I know, because I've been there, that you want a beautiful day but be realistic about it. Most of your guest have NO idea what a pocket fold, wedding theme, or what your wedding colors are.
So here are the things I don't think are that serious or needed.
Having more than one dress on your wedding day. The only time that I can understand this is if you get a MUCH cheaper dress for dancing. Key word cheaper. Buying to wedding gowns does not make sense to me. Or having one dress for the ceremony and one for reception. I’m not sure how long some folks ceremony’s are but mine and all the weddings I’ve been to have never been over 30 minutes. So you are going to spend one or more grands on a dress you were for 30 minutes? I’m just saying… doesn’t make sense to me.
Wedding themes are a bride and newlywed thing. No one else knows what they are much less care. Most people don’t even know your wedding colors while at your wedding much less a week later. We worry about everything fitting into our theme or main idea. I know from doing it myself and seeing many do it.
Spending so much on invitations. Ok, I know I’m hitting sore spots but hey… it’s my opinion. Ok… I have been a guest at many weddings. I have had to track down where I put their invitation a few days before their wedding. Which means I barely looked at it other than to see the date and location. So, after planning and seeing others plan I realize we spend WAY to much time, money and energy on every detail that the majority of our guest and family, even significant other, do NOT notice. This same comment goes for décor. Flowers, candles, linen, chargers and more. Yeah it does look nice, but I do believe there is another way to do things too.
Ok… I’m done for today. I’m sure I’ll have more later.
In all reality a wedding is a celebration of the couples love and commitment to each other.
I still get on theknot's message boards everyday. Reading the questions, needs and ideas of brides shows me how overboard the wedding industry pushes us. I know it is THE day of our lives, but we all do have to live after that day. I mean really the extra money we put into attire, decor, flowers, invitations, STD (save the dates) and more could be pay off student loans or you car, be a down payment on a house and so much more. I know, because I've been there, that you want a beautiful day but be realistic about it. Most of your guest have NO idea what a pocket fold, wedding theme, or what your wedding colors are.
So here are the things I don't think are that serious or needed.
Having more than one dress on your wedding day. The only time that I can understand this is if you get a MUCH cheaper dress for dancing. Key word cheaper. Buying to wedding gowns does not make sense to me. Or having one dress for the ceremony and one for reception. I’m not sure how long some folks ceremony’s are but mine and all the weddings I’ve been to have never been over 30 minutes. So you are going to spend one or more grands on a dress you were for 30 minutes? I’m just saying… doesn’t make sense to me.
Wedding themes are a bride and newlywed thing. No one else knows what they are much less care. Most people don’t even know your wedding colors while at your wedding much less a week later. We worry about everything fitting into our theme or main idea. I know from doing it myself and seeing many do it.
Spending so much on invitations. Ok, I know I’m hitting sore spots but hey… it’s my opinion. Ok… I have been a guest at many weddings. I have had to track down where I put their invitation a few days before their wedding. Which means I barely looked at it other than to see the date and location. So, after planning and seeing others plan I realize we spend WAY to much time, money and energy on every detail that the majority of our guest and family, even significant other, do NOT notice. This same comment goes for décor. Flowers, candles, linen, chargers and more. Yeah it does look nice, but I do believe there is another way to do things too.
Ok… I’m done for today. I’m sure I’ll have more later.
In all reality a wedding is a celebration of the couples love and commitment to each other.
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