Mary J. Blige new album is really good. I have been listening to "Work That", a song on that album. There is a line in that song that has been in my head for several days.
"They'll never be happy because they're not happy with themselves"
This phrase can apply to so many different situations and people. We have all had people, friends, co-workers and family members who could not (or should I say would not) be happy for others. I have been in this situation, on both sides.
Like many of you I have had times in my life where I was not happy with who I was. Some of those times I didn't even know it! One time that I specifically remember was Valentine’s Day 2006. I was working in corporate America, which I hated with a passion, and everyone around me were celebrating love. Women received flowers, candy, cards and balloons that covered their desk. One even got a singing telegram. I remember sitting at my desk truly hating because my “relationship” was not going anywhere and I knew it. Which also meant, that I knew I was not getting anything for Valentine’s day.
I look back on that day and see that my situation did not mean I couldn’t be happy for those who had good relationships. I realize now that I was unhappy with my job and other things in my life. These things hid my rose colored glasses. I saw everything from my unhappy and pitiful space.
I realize now I did not have to be that way! I now know that I can and should be happy for people around me. That sharing in their joy is a privilege and I should be happy to share in it. Also that when I do not have anything happy to say I should not say or show it!
I know that when I am unhappy with a part of my life, it is not my whole life! There are other things that are good, even when I may not see it or recognize it. Things could be worse and I need to be grateful for what I have. I have been working on this, looking for the positive. This in addition to using the techniques from the Secret, I feel my outlook is different. My evolution is continuing thank God!
So for those of you who are faces the challenge of dealing with people who are not happy for you. Think about the possibility that they are a hater! LOL That they may just be in the middle of a funk and not able to have happiness for others. Try to be understanding, but at the same time do not allow them to hinder your joy! Say a prayer for them and keep yourself grounded in the fact that at one time you might have been where they are.
"They'll never be happy because they're not happy with themselves"
This phrase can apply to so many different situations and people. We have all had people, friends, co-workers and family members who could not (or should I say would not) be happy for others. I have been in this situation, on both sides.
Like many of you I have had times in my life where I was not happy with who I was. Some of those times I didn't even know it! One time that I specifically remember was Valentine’s Day 2006. I was working in corporate America, which I hated with a passion, and everyone around me were celebrating love. Women received flowers, candy, cards and balloons that covered their desk. One even got a singing telegram. I remember sitting at my desk truly hating because my “relationship” was not going anywhere and I knew it. Which also meant, that I knew I was not getting anything for Valentine’s day.
I look back on that day and see that my situation did not mean I couldn’t be happy for those who had good relationships. I realize now that I was unhappy with my job and other things in my life. These things hid my rose colored glasses. I saw everything from my unhappy and pitiful space.
I realize now I did not have to be that way! I now know that I can and should be happy for people around me. That sharing in their joy is a privilege and I should be happy to share in it. Also that when I do not have anything happy to say I should not say or show it!
I know that when I am unhappy with a part of my life, it is not my whole life! There are other things that are good, even when I may not see it or recognize it. Things could be worse and I need to be grateful for what I have. I have been working on this, looking for the positive. This in addition to using the techniques from the Secret, I feel my outlook is different. My evolution is continuing thank God!
So for those of you who are faces the challenge of dealing with people who are not happy for you. Think about the possibility that they are a hater! LOL That they may just be in the middle of a funk and not able to have happiness for others. Try to be understanding, but at the same time do not allow them to hinder your joy! Say a prayer for them and keep yourself grounded in the fact that at one time you might have been where they are.
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