I hear how getting married is a trend right now from a lot of people. How so many people they know are getting married. I do not think it’s a trend. Personally I feel many are not willing to "play house". These people want to actually have a home, a real home not house, for them and their family. Not just the illusion.
To me "playing house" is living together, sharing bills, responsibility and so on but not making the final and lawful commitment. Honestly think about it. Sharing a home, bills, money, emotions and more with someone is being committed. Why not say “I do”?
Many play house and think nothing about it. Or maybe one person in the couple wants to make it official and the other isn’t ready. How are you not ready? Y’all doing everything else! I believe it’s easy to give lame reason why you are not married or about to be married when you are living together. It’s always easy to do the wrong thing, I mean this in the biblical way. I feel it’s easy to look at other’s doing the right thing and say they are following a trend. Though in reality they are doing what we should do.
I had people ask me why did I get married. Why we didn’t just keep living together and be happy with that. Why should I settle? Why can’t I have what I want? The illusion that you are making a big mistake is crazy! I think it is a bigger mistake to give someone all of you. Your energy, money, time and space but then have no guarantee that they will be there tomorrow or next week. No guarantee that they will be faithful or honest or anything! Or anyway to make sure you are taken care of if something happens to them. Yes, I do know that there is no way to guarantee this before or after the marriage license is signed. We all know people who disrespect their wedding vows. I rather have vows and a ring there to remind them and others than nothing at all!
I think our generation is looking for more than the one before us. We want stability. We want the white picket fence, the milk man and PTA meetings… ok I’m joking but you know what I mean. I look at those I know in their 30s and 40s and see the difference in our generation. We have a lot more opportunities. We have a completely different view on the world and life in general. We have access to more than they did. The internet, money, jobs, college, and so on.
I feel that these things are what make our generation desire different things now. Which include marriage. So it may seem like a trend, but I feel it's our reality.
To me "playing house" is living together, sharing bills, responsibility and so on but not making the final and lawful commitment. Honestly think about it. Sharing a home, bills, money, emotions and more with someone is being committed. Why not say “I do”?
Many play house and think nothing about it. Or maybe one person in the couple wants to make it official and the other isn’t ready. How are you not ready? Y’all doing everything else! I believe it’s easy to give lame reason why you are not married or about to be married when you are living together. It’s always easy to do the wrong thing, I mean this in the biblical way. I feel it’s easy to look at other’s doing the right thing and say they are following a trend. Though in reality they are doing what we should do.
I had people ask me why did I get married. Why we didn’t just keep living together and be happy with that. Why should I settle? Why can’t I have what I want? The illusion that you are making a big mistake is crazy! I think it is a bigger mistake to give someone all of you. Your energy, money, time and space but then have no guarantee that they will be there tomorrow or next week. No guarantee that they will be faithful or honest or anything! Or anyway to make sure you are taken care of if something happens to them. Yes, I do know that there is no way to guarantee this before or after the marriage license is signed. We all know people who disrespect their wedding vows. I rather have vows and a ring there to remind them and others than nothing at all!
I think our generation is looking for more than the one before us. We want stability. We want the white picket fence, the milk man and PTA meetings… ok I’m joking but you know what I mean. I look at those I know in their 30s and 40s and see the difference in our generation. We have a lot more opportunities. We have a completely different view on the world and life in general. We have access to more than they did. The internet, money, jobs, college, and so on.
I feel that these things are what make our generation desire different things now. Which include marriage. So it may seem like a trend, but I feel it's our reality.
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