Over the last few months we have heard alot about infidelity and their spouses, especially wives, standing by them. From Detroits mayor to NY's governor to Bill Clinton's infidelity. These situations make many wonder why the spouse stands by their mate. This doesn't just happen in politics, it happens in every life too! Why do they stand by them? Why do they stay?
Some say women are more likely to stay with a cheating mate than men. I do think that men have a pride issue and would leave faster, but not in every situation. No one is perfect and we all have to learn what we can and can not deal with. I don't feel women ignore it, I think many don't know what to do. They are afraid to leave, of what people will think or say. Some may think they should stick it out, others may think being with them is better than being alone. I believe if you don't stand up and respect for yourself, NO one will.
I personally dealed with infidelity in previous relationships. I learned from those relationship a lot of things about myself. I created my "Deal Breakers." I will not deal with cheating. You can get one "get out of an azz beating and me calling my cousins and them" card, but after that. I'm letting my big azz family take you out! Without a second thought too.
I do believe you should try to keep your problems and isssues in your own home as much as possible. I'm not saying don't tell anyone but be very limited to whom you say what too. Some people don't help the situation, they make it worse. Them asking you questions about the situation or even how things are going can cause more damange. We all need to reach out to someone but make sure it is someone who knows you well enough to help you with what you're going through.
Some say women are more likely to stay with a cheating mate than men. I do think that men have a pride issue and would leave faster, but not in every situation. No one is perfect and we all have to learn what we can and can not deal with. I don't feel women ignore it, I think many don't know what to do. They are afraid to leave, of what people will think or say. Some may think they should stick it out, others may think being with them is better than being alone. I believe if you don't stand up and respect for yourself, NO one will.
I personally dealed with infidelity in previous relationships. I learned from those relationship a lot of things about myself. I created my "Deal Breakers." I will not deal with cheating. You can get one "get out of an azz beating and me calling my cousins and them" card, but after that. I'm letting my big azz family take you out! Without a second thought too.
I do believe you should try to keep your problems and isssues in your own home as much as possible. I'm not saying don't tell anyone but be very limited to whom you say what too. Some people don't help the situation, they make it worse. Them asking you questions about the situation or even how things are going can cause more damange. We all need to reach out to someone but make sure it is someone who knows you well enough to help you with what you're going through.
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