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SITC #9 Figuring It Out

The hardest part of dating is getting use to the person you’re seeing. We all have habits and traits that others dislike. On top of learning regular stuff about them, you have to learn how to deal with the traits you do not like very much. Trying to figure out if there are more good traits than annoying. Or if you should chop it up as a lost and move on.

Even deciding to move on can be confusing. What things determine when to do so. Right now I am going out and having fun. I would like to date someone that has the traits I would like in next significant other. Just in case it becomes a relationship. At the same time I am not sure if I am finished looking to see what else is out there. I do not want to make the steps toward a relationship when I am not sure if I want to be in one.

Right now I feel like I am currently making those steps with the man I am seeing. I don’t think it’s obvious steps, but we’re a few months into seeing each other. There is daily communication by instant messenger, email, text and phone. We see each other a few times a week. As much as I enjoy spending time with him, a piece of me is not sure if this is “where I want to be.” At the same time when I reduce our daily communication, I miss it.

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