Apearl's Blog

I am perfectly imperfect. This is who I am. I am not perfect but that doesn’t mean I am not the best me I can be. I curse. I don’t like mushrooms. I sleep late. I like to play my music very loud. I don’t like bananas. I have a short patience. I love to shop. I can get mad easily. I like to drink Dr. Pepper & Midori Sours. I love music. I find writing a release. I am very strong willed. I am not the nicest person, but this is me! At time I have trouble dealing with certain people and scenarios because of who I am. Certain issues I don’t see as a big deal. That is because I see thing as black or white. There is no gray area with me. I feel many, no most, things aren’t as complicated as we make them. We choose to hold on to it or draw it out so that they are complicated. These things annoy me. I know that is how some folks operate, but it is hard for me to deal with or even hear about it. I want to just scream “Get over it already” or “Just stop talking to them ...

I am going to admit it, I am scared to fall in love again. I have been told and believe I do not have unconditional love (in relationships). I know it may seem strange, but I don’t love unconditionally. Maybe my expectations of love are out of whack. Or what I expect and give is. Or maybe this is just me. I think that my “conditions” are normal. I will love myself and keep certain personal priorities no matter what. I feel those keep me from being in bad relationships and help me stay connected to me. It helps me keep my connection with myself that gives me the strength to do what I need to no matter what. I know that I hold a piece of my heart back when I fall in love. I have tried to change this, but I think it is not something that will. It is not like I try to, it just happens. I believe it goes with my issues with trusting people. I trust people but they don’t surprise me when they break it. It’s the same with my heart. So I guess the way I love is with a protectiv...

I like to cuddle. I will admit I missed it a lot while in the LD marriage. I enjoy being able to again. Cuddling is so nice. It is a level of intimacy, atleast to me. Like a way to be intimate without doing too much. Which is important while dating! You can not tell me after a long day of work, fighting traffic and folks getting on your nerves it does not feel great to curl up in that special person’s arms. Then you take that deep breath. You know what I’m talking about! Another one of my favorite semi-intimate actions is the forehead kiss. It makes me melt. Yes, I am being sappy! Dag, I hope who I am dating or may date is reading this.

My new challenge with dating is finding my comfort zone. As we get to know each other better and figure out each others personalities the zone is being created. Though, I catch myself wondering if certain actions will make him feel uncomfortable or will be doing too much. Some things come naturally. Head on shoulder, holding hands, the subtle touches here and there. While other things can turn out very awkward. Have us both sitting there laughing at ourselves! I often get told by men interested in me that I am “hard to read.” I am use to hearing that, it’s who I am. I am a pretty laid back about a lot of things and very passionate about others. I know it’s confusing to someone to figure out what things get which reaction from me. A friend of mine told me last week “Trying to figure you out is counterproductive and a waste of energy!” And they have known me for 8 years! I’m a lot of work but I am worth it. Well at least I think so! I will continue to work on building the comfort zone fo...

I was not going to address the New Yorker’s broadly publicized cover, but since it’s all over the place I will! It portrays Democratic presidential candidate, Barack Obama, in a Muslim outfit and his wife, Michelle Obama, in a militant outfit. When I first say the cover on theybf I was very upset. I understand freedom of speech but wow! It seemed like a blatant attack on Obama’s campaign to me! I was appalled at how they put it up, on the cover of all places. Then to have the audacity to call it satire! I know it was sarcasm, but just like some jokes, it did not come across well. Atleast to me! I spent some of time on Monday and Tuesday reading responses and explanations to the cover. I was not as upset after reading some of them. Others made me want to scream. Tuesday, Obama was on Larry King Live. I really enjoyed this interview. At the beginning Larry King asked Obama what he made of the cover. His response: “Well, I know it was the "New Yorker's" attempt at satire. I...

The best part of being single, well second to not having to deal with someone 24/7, is date night! It is fun to get dressed up and all cute for a date! Well, maybe I’m alone on this feeling. I love it! I even do my make up, more than my normal mascara and lip gloss! Pick out a cute outfit that fits the date of course. Hmmm maybe I just like showing off my true diva-ness! Over the last few months I have been having a lot of fun dating. I am getting to experience new places and environments. Simple dates, like just grabbing a quick dinner excite me. Dag I am way too excited about this dating thing! The fancier dates are great too. Shoot just hanging out on the deck makes me happy. Maybe it’s not just the getting cute thing, it could be the company. Either way, it’s great. Tonight I am going out with the guy I’ve been dating. We’re going to a lounge here in downtown Atlanta. I look forward to eating some tapas, having a few drinks and dancing. The joys of dating!

Friendships are a lot like relationships. You get to know each other. Spend time together. Realize what you have in common and what you don’t. A bond is created. You have highs and lows. Arguments and make up. Your friendship develops. Even in a group of friends there are different levels of friendships among the members of the group. Each has a special type of bond with others. Do all friendships last forever? No. People grow apart. At times we have to “clean house.”