Apearl's Blog

I attended a wonderful seminar on Saturday, Female Success Factor . Rolling Out magazine presented and CoverGirl Queen Collection sponsored it. I read about the seminar on Necole Bitchie’s blog . When I first saw the title I thought it would be helpful for my friend, Felicia, who owns her own business . After I read the site, I realized I could also benefit from it. I was not sure what it would be like since I have not been to many seminars or conferences. The ones I have been to were work or school related. When I arrived there was a women playing music, CoverGirl was doing makeovers and the participants were socializing. It was a very nice environment. It was hosted by Munson Steed, Rolling Out’s publisher. The panelist were Jamika Pessoa (chef), Necole Bitchie (blogger), Chilli (TLC) and Caryn Ward (actress). Each shared their life and success stories. They gave affirmations and other motivational words. It was very informative. I smiled, laughed and cried. It was bett...

I decided at the end of 2007, that I would make my writing hobby into career. I tried the traditional route for a career. I went to college after high school because it was expected of me. I chose a major, packed my bags (and party clothes) and set up shop at NC Central University. I had no desire to go to college and it showed! My first semester my GPA was a 1.9! No one told me I would actually have to do work while there! I became pregnant with my daughter in the winter of 2001, I was a sophomore who still barely went to class. The life growing inside of me changed so many things for me. I knew I had to be more than the cute chic at every good party. I got focused, changed my major and got rid of some friends. In July 2002, I gave birth to my beautiful daughter. I thought I made a huge transformation before her birth; that was nothing compared to what was to come. . .

Yesterday I found out that a very good friend of mine’s father passed. It hurt my heart even though I have never met him. This friend and I have become very close over the last two years. She was with me on Christmas day 2006 when I found out my father passed after being in the hospital for two weeks. Her father was in a very similar situation. He had been in the hospital for a few weeks. She was also with me when I found out my friend Denita was murdered. The same day of my father’s funeral, which she attended as well. My heart goes out to her and her family. We are alike in several ways and she is handling it the same way I did. Celebrating his life, instead of his death. I will not be able to attend his funeral next week because it will be in Long Island, NY. I am keeping her and her family in my thoughts and prayers. I know her mother, sister and niece and know they all have a good support system. Keeping her in my thoughts has caused me to realize how many of my “circle” has lost ...

I came across this poem, When I say, “I’m a Christian” by Carol Wimmer . I really enjoyed it, thought I’d share When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not shouting, "I've been saved!"I'm whispering, "I get lost! That's why I chose this way" When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't speak with human prideI'm confessing that I stumble-needing God to be my guide When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not trying to be strongI'm professing that I'm weak and pray for strength to carry on When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not bragging of success I'm admitting that I've failed and cannot ever pay the debt When I say, "I am a Christian," I don't think I know it all I submit to my confusion asking humbly to be taught When I say, "I am a Christian," I'm not claiming to be perfect My flaws are far too visible but God believes I'm worth it When I say, "I am a C...

I hate the getting to know you conversations. I mean deep Deep DEEP in my heart hate them! I don’t feel like replaying my whole life history. Naming my childhood best friends and pets. How I got my nickname. Where I did this and that. Why I did this and that. I’m seriously considering writing a essay with all that information. I’ll add in my favorite colors, flowers, and places to visit. Then I’ll just email it to a guy instead of having those conversations. That way I save myself from having a mental breakdown! I know you’re sitting over there thinking how do you get to know someone without asking those things. I am not saying that they can not ask. Just don’t ask me all of those in the same day! Lord have mercy! This isn’t Who Wants To Be A Millionaire! Personally, a lot of things I learn about people, I learn over time. From regular conversations where I may ask a question in response to something they say. Not by asking 21 questions every hour! I mean really what is up with a firin...

“ We love because it’s the only true adventure. ” - Nikki Giovanni There are so many different types of love. All unique and special. Before I became a parent, almost six years ago, I did not understand the love a parent has for a child. I can not even find the words to describe the love you have for someone you created. Watching them grow, learn and become a person. It’s an amazing experience. Romantic love is great. The butterflies in your stomach you get when you hear that special someone’s voice. The feel of their touch lights your body on fire. The thought of them makes you smile. Falling in love for the first time is amazing. The feeling was new, unconditional and exciting. I remember that no matter what anyone told me, I only could focus on that feeling. The love you have for your family is strong. This love is normally tested though. We all have those family members who like to push our buttons. At the end of the day, they are your family and you love them regardles...

As I previously stated I am doing a Single In the City blog on BAB . I will copy them over here after they have been posted there a few days. I will title them SITC then number them, depending on how long the title I might include them in the title on here. If it's long I'll just put it in the post! So here is the first one! Enjoy! Single, Taken, Engaged, Married, Single Again I was married on October 7th, 2007 in an intimate ceremony at The Stanley House , a beautiful Southern home in metro Atlanta. Our wedding day was three months after we became engaged. I put a lot of work into planning our special day, but now that I look back I realize it was not that serious. Not because we are no longer together. Because of the stress and pressure I added on myself. I am sure you are wondering why we are not together. Well, neither of us is perfect. R, the ex-husband, felt that some of the agreements we made before getting married were no longer acceptable. He is in the military, a...

Today a good friend of mine launched her new bridal site! It is Brown and Brida l . A bridal website for the brown bride. I was lucky to watch the growth of this site over the last few months. I can not say enough about it or it’s creator. I have gotten to know the creator Senam over the last year online and consider her a good friend. She is like my sistah! She is a wife, mother of a two year old and she's pregnant with twins. She is also a graphic designer! She is seriously superwoman! I am blessed to have her in my life. I hope that you check out her website. It is the best thing since sliced bread! It has message boards, chat rooms, pictures, blogs and an arcade! Also check out her business website ! She has asked me to blog on her site. I will be doing what I like to call, Single In The City blogs. Yes it is a bridal site, but I'm a ex-bride! I'll be covering the re-entering into single life aspect of things. I am so excited about this o...

It’s out, I saw it and I loved it! I laughed, I cried, I held my breath and I walked out smiling! What all great movies should have! I am a HUGE fan of the show. I don’t plan to ever live in NYC so the show is my way to feel like I do. I love the characters and loved seeing their progression in the movie. It’s like they are my friends too. After reading all the entertainment sites and blogs I knew Carrie and Big were going to at least plan a wedding. So that part didn’t surprise me. I knew he would be a no show when Miranda opened her mouth at their engagement party. Though I was not ready for the beat down (with flowers) Carrie gave him. I am glad they showed him telling the driver to go back because he was making a mistake. It hurt me to see her during her “honeymoon”, but love hurts. Steve sleeping someone else did. I always put Steve in the punk category! I mean really, he’s a bartender and Miranda is a lawyer! Step your game up Steve! The fact they had not had sex in six months wo...

I am so proud of the Democratic party, America and Obama today! I have so much to say but I’m so excited I’m not sure I’ll get it all out! First, I hope that black men are being inspired by Obama. I truly hope they are researching his life story and realizing that he didn’t come from the “cookie cutter” life. Anyone can become great! ANYONE ! For those saying someone is might try to assassinate him, the same folks not wanting a black president probably don’t want a woman either. Haters are there for a reason, to motivate us! Also, we can not sit around and worry about the what if’s. If we do that we’d never make any progress. As far as the Vice President goes. I would love, I repeat, love for John Edwards (a fellow NCCU Eagle) to be the VP. Obama and Edwards had similar views on a lot of issues and I think that is very important in the White House. Though, I will admit that Hilary as VP would make a very strong Democratic ticket. Today I listened to a interview with a Senator...

I wrote a little something on dating before leaving on my vacation. I know I expect a lot from my next “boo.” I have high standards and needs, but I am defiantly worth the work. I just really am not in the place to deal with any drama, disrespect or extra work. I have a feeling I am going to walk away from someone who is worth the work just because I don’t feel like putting it in. I guess I have to figure out some things in my head. I know I can be thrown off easily by simple actions. Especially while getting to know someone. It’s frustrating, but I am trying to be patient and relax. Though it is SO obvious when I’m irritated. I am going to see how it goes. The next few months might just practice to get me in the swing of single life again. Or it could be the start of something great. I know that God has it all figured out, so I’ll sit back and try to relax. WOW I am seriously dating again! Who would of guessed it!

I haven’t posted in over a week. I went on a short vacation to the beach. I really enjoyed it. Then I was trying to get back into the swing of things when I returned. I have been dating and actually enjoying it. Also, I have been working on establishing a friendship with the ex-husband. We’ve come to an agreement that it’s not going to work as far as a couple but are trying to be cordial. We’ll see how this plays out.